“Silent ACEs:” The Epidemic of Attachment and Developmental Trauma

cultureA 2004 landmark study of over 300,000 adults confirmed that social support was a stronger predictor of survival than physical activity, body mass index, hypertension, air pollution, alcohol consumption and even smoking 15 cigarettes per day.

Clearly healthy supportive relationships are critical for our health. Extensive research shows that the quality of our adult human relationships and social interactions is defined by how we attached with our primary caregivers as a young child.

Over 6000 mother-baby interactions in the “Strange Situation” studies from 1970-1999 found that a blockbusting 45% of babies insecurely attach with their mother.

These statistics have been confirmed by over 10,000 Adult Attachment Interviews over 25 years up to 2009.

As of 2017, probably only 50% of adults are capable of secure, happy loving adult relationships.

What does this mean for our health and what can be done about it?


TraumaThe original 1998 study by the CDC and Kaiser Permanente of over 17,500 adults found 67% of adults have experienced at least one Adverse Childhood Event or “ACE.”

However, this is likely to be an underestimate, because the study relied on people being able to self-report emotional abuse and neglect when asked only two relatively short questions on this category in the study about their childhood.

Assessing for emotional abuse and neglect would include assessing for “attachment trauma,” also called “development disorder” or “complex trauma.”

Attachment trauma occurs in the first 1000 days of life – from conception (including time in utero) up to the age of approximately two years, when a baby does not securely bond with the mother (or primary caregiver).

This is a major trauma that, as you will see, affects the child’s development, how they respond to stressful events in adulthood, and how they bond in key relationships in adulthood.

Before the age of two, the frontal cortex or the thinking part of the brain, has not yet developed and there are no explicit memories from this time, so it is difficult to self-report attachment trauma.

The developmental psychologist Dr Mary Ainsworth, observed over 6000 mother-baby interactions in the “Strange Situation” studies from 1970-1999.

Stunningly, her studies found only 55% of babies securely attach with the mother.

Attachment trauma causes a relational or ambient trauma, where there is no specific incident to recall, such as a physical act of violence or sexual abuse, so this will often go unreported as a “silent ACE.”

When a mother does not express love or emotionally attune to her baby, causing attachment trauma, it leads to what experts have termed Developmental Trauma Disorder in the growing child.

Symptoms of Developmental Trauma include the inability to self-sooth, self-destructive behavior patterns,difficulty with regulating emotions, core shame and self-loathing, inability to concentrate, chronic anger, fear, anxiety, aggression and difficulties with social relations, according to a paper by Dr van der Kolk on Developmental Disorder in 2005.

Bessel van der Kolk MD, the world leading expert in trauma and professor of psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine, studied over 40,000 children nationally being treated for multiple traumas and found most “do not meet the criteria for PTSD… (as) the majority of issues are not specific traumas, but issues in their attachment relationships.

To qualify as a diagnosis of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), a person must witness or be an actual or possible victim of a specific event that threatens to cause death, physical injury or serious injury. Developmental Trauma Disorder does not qualify as PTSD, which explains why attachment and developmental order have gone underfunded and ignored by the psychiatric profession.

PTSD diagnosis, according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DMS-5) published by the American Psychiatric Association requires 1/ reliving the event (intrusive nightmares, flashbacks) 2/ avoidance of events, people or situations that trigger flashbacks and 3/ numbing and negative changes in feelings and beliefs, and last 4/ hyperarousal – being keyed up and, for example, having poor sleep.

These symptoms are different than those described in the paper on Developmental Trauma Disorder by Dr van der Kolk. Currently the American Psychiatric Association only recognizes PTSD and not Developmental Trauma Disorder. Until it is in the DMS-5, it will not be diagnosed nor treated by psychiatrists and will not be covered by insurance.

The Strange Situation Study Results

baby-933097_1920In Dr Ainsworth’s Strange Situation studies, the mother and her baby and a stranger are in the room. The mother leaves the room for a while, and then returns while researchers carefully observe the baby’s responses.

A securely attached baby will cry and be upset when the mother leaves. When she returns, the baby will cling to his or her mother, be soothed by her, and then will quickly return to playing.

Of the 45% of adults who do not securely attach, 23% are “avoidant” types and 22% are ambivalent or “disorganized.”

The avoidant babies did not react when the mother left the room or returned. She did not differ from a stranger to her baby. Dr Ainsworth found the mothers of these babies were not emotionally expressing love for their babies and were rejecting.

In the ambivalent types, the babies would be angry and cry when the mother comes back in the room and cling to her, but would not calm down. In these cases, the mother was emotionally attuned part of the time, but not consistently.

Results of 10,000 Adult Attachment Interviews

The psychologist Professor Mary Main, who originally worked under Dr Ainsworth, created the Adult Attachment Interviews as a way to assess for attachment trauma in adults.

Over 10,000 interviews were conducted over 25 years up to 2009. Stunningly, by interviewing adults about their childhoods, the researchers could predict with 85% accuracy the attachment style with their own children.

These enormous studies also confirmed Dr Ainsworth’s original findings; an average of only 58% of adults had secure attachment with their primary caregivers, 23% of adults were dismissing (avoidant types), and 19% were preoccupied (ambivalent).

Assessing for attachment trauma in adults in these interviews takes a lot of time. The interview takes 75 minutes to complete by the participant in the study, 10 hours to transcribe, and 4 hours to assess by a qualified professional.

The assessor is trained to assess HOW the participant responded, and are not concerned so much with the content. Clearly two questions in the ACEs questionnaire is too superficial to assess accurately for attachment trauma.

Attachment Trauma and Your Health  

happy peopleThe blueprint for our ability to attach healthily relationships in adulthood is defined during our formative childhood years. As of 2017 – possibly 50% of adults have attachment trauma and cannot maintain secure, loving adult relationships, or are in unsatisfying long-term relationships.

Resolving attachment trauma may be critical for our health. Consider the 2004 landmark study of over 300,000 adults confirming social support was a stronger predictor of survival than physical activity, body mass index, hypertension, air pollution, alcohol consumption and even smoking 15 cigarettes per day.

A meta-analysis of relevant studies published in the medical literature from 1980-2014 confirm loneliness and social isolation increase the likelihood of mortality by 30%.

One of the most robust findings in the science of psychoneuroimmunology (PNI) is the strong correlation between healthy close personal relationships and immune function.

PNI researchers have found social isolation, lack of social integration and interpersonal conflict are associated with increased inflammatory markers.

One of the top reasons a person may not be recovering from an illness is because they are currently in insecure or conflictual relationships, and their body is in a perpetual fight-flight and inflammatory response.

Attachment trauma sets up the blueprint for the types of relationships we attract in adulthood and this affects our relationships, including with our boss, children, friends and our main romantic relationships.

Resolving current relationship issues involves exploring our early attachment relationships and healing the traumatized child.

The Brain Develops in Social Context

brain synchThe outdated conventional medical model was predicated on the human brain developing in isolation, in a closed system unaffected by the environment. So, neuronal pathways and synaptic connections would develop due to nature and our genes.

However, brain research shows our physical brains are directly affected by our social interactions. The fact our brains and identity develop as self-as-changed-by-the-other confirms human interactions are critical to physical and emotional development. Nurture and not just nature (our genes) is critical.

The expression of emotional love, not just physically going through the motions of feeding and clothing a baby, is critical for a child’s physical and psychological development.

The now infamous studies of children in Romanian orphanages where babies were emotionally but not physically neglected and developed symptoms of failure to thrive syndrome (stunted physical and emotional growth), are testament to this.

This is a useful video with leading neuroscientists including Dr Dan Siegal and Dr Bruce Perry talking about attachment trauma:

Attachment Styles and Your Adult Response to Stress

According to the authors of the book “Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How it Can Help you Find-and Keep-Love” researchers have found BOTH babies were classified as the ambivalent (anxious) types and the avoidant (ignored mum) types were found to have higher heart rates and cortisol levels, so they were both in fight-flight responses.

We know from multiple researchers now that early life stress changes the epigenetic expression of glucocorticoid receptors in the brain over the lifetime and changes the entire genome predisposing people to most major types of chronic complex illnesses in adulthood.

An expanding area of research now includes assessing for adult stress responses per attachment style to relationship conflict and non-relationship stress. Research has been somewhat conflicting, but so far those with an ambivalent (anxious) attachment style have been found to have higher stress responses to tasks like public speaking and acute stress. However avoidant types experience high levels of stress in response to relationship conflicts and times of separation.

The upshot is, early life stress reduces resilience to the inevitable stresses we will face in our adulthood. These stressful events in adulthood usually trigger the manifestation of a chronic complex illness. These illnesses started many, many years before the trigger, when our genetic expression shifted in response to attachment then developmental trauma.

How Can We Assess Ourselves for Attachment Trauma as an Adult?

RomanceIf you answered “no” to questions one and four in the ACEs study questionnaire you may want to revisit and dig a little deeper into your past.

The Strange Situation and Adult Attachment Interviews aren’t viable methods of assessing for attachment trauma, however researchers have been using the Close Relations Questionnaire, an assessment of adult romantic relationships to assess for attachment styles.

Experiences in Close Relationships Scale can be assessed online free here: http://personality-testing.info/tests/ECR.php. This questionnaire is based on research which identified four attachment types.

According to researchers,

“Those classed as secure (low anxiety, low avoidance) hold a positive view of self and others because of the consistent responsive care they received. They are comfortable relying on others, and are easily comforted.

Preoccupied individuals (high anxiety, low avoidance) hold a negative view of themselves, but a positive view of others due to inconsistent caregiving. This style is characterised by emotional dependency on others, negative affect, being hyper-vigilant to any potential threats, and having low self esteem.

Dismissive persons (low anxiety, high avoidance) have a positive view of self, where they view themselves as resilient and not needing others, but a negative view of others due to early unresponsive care. Although they are uncomfortable being close to others, they have a positive view of themselves. This strategy leads to the denial of attachment needs, avoidance of closeness, intimacy, dependence in close relationships, and self reliance and independence.

Finally, fearful individuals (high anxiety, high avoidance) have a negative view of both themselves and others. Akin to preoccupied styles they seek social contact, but in this case are inhibited by fear of rejection. This leads to a behaviour style of approach and avoidance in inter-personal interactions in adult life. In common with preoccupied styles they experience high levels of negative affect and poor self esteem.”

From: Kidd T, Hamer M, Steptoe A. Examining the association between adult attachment style and cortisol responses to acute stress. Psychoneuroendocrinology. 2011;36(6):771-779.

Recommended Reading

It is important to explore the attachment types, and recommended books for reading are included below.

Human Magnet SyndromeClinician Ross Rosenberg’s outstanding book “The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us” explores deeply how people with ambivalent or anxious attachment styles are attracted often to the avoidant attachment types.

Rosenberg explores the definition of people who are codependent in relationships (anxious types) and pathological narcissists (avoidantly attached).

attachedAnother book with useful questionnaires assessing attachment styles is the previously mentioned book “Attached” by Amir Levine MD and Rachel Heller MD.

 

Parenting inside outAnother worthy book is “Parenting from the Inside Out: “How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive” by Dr Daniel Siegal and Mary Hartzell – this includes in-depth research and an adapted Adult Attachment Interview for self-exploration.

The Enneagram Type

When as small babies or toddlers we do not feel love from our mother or primary caregiver, this leads to a self-love deficit and is experienced as abandonment by the child.

The essence of unconditional self-love is now lost, and this leads to the core traits and personality types we see develop in the Enneagram personality types.

The Enneagram is a system of 9 personality types used in corporate, personal development, and spiritual circles. Unlike the majority of personality typing systems, the typing is based not on behavioral patterns, but more upon WHY people behave the way they do. This leads to the deeper analysis we need when examining attachment trauma.

So, for example, type 3 “Achievers” do not feel self-love just for being alive; they learnt in childhood they must earn it by achieving results, often falling ino the trap of becoming a human “doing.”

Type 2s, the Givers learn at an early age they can only seem to earn love when they help or support their parents and other people.

Type 1, Perfectionists learn they can only have love if they do things “right” and are “bad” if they get things “wrong.”

Without the feeling of unconditional self-love at our core, our judgement and ability to lead a balanced, healthy life is at risk. It often creates tremendous stress and self-destructive health patterns, like workaholism, inability to prioritize our own health needs, and attracting unsupportive, destructive relationships.

enneagramYou can assess your enneagram type online for $12, here http://www.enneagraminstitute.com, However, once again, reading and exploring the personality types is even more important in learning to know yourself and recognizing previously unconscious emotional patterns.

The book “The Wisdom of the Enneagram” by Don Riso and Russ Hudson is a good starting point.

Assessing for Emotional Neglect

Emotional neglect is often overlooked because essentially it requires assessing for what did NOT happen in childhood, rather than what DID happen.

The vast majority of published research on neglect specifically covers physical, not emotional, neglect. So studies, have assessed the impact of children being underfed, or not physically clothed properly for example.

What has been ignored is the hidden trauma of emotional neglect, which is part of attachment and developmental trauma.

Emotional trauma may be worse than physical trauma for the victim, because there are overt signs and therefore social recognition and support for physical trauma.

Emotional trauma is no less detrimental to a child’s physical and psychological health, yet it is invisible for the most part, which means there is a secondary trauma of lack of recognition and social support.

Running on EmptyAn excellent book to assess for emotional neglect is “Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect” by Dr Jonice Webb – it includes questionnaires for self-assessment and extensive examples of how different parenting styles lead to often unintentional emotional neglect of the child. Essential reading.

 

 

Conclusion – The Future is The Past Healed

If we fail to attach securely in our early relationship, we are in a continuum of fear, which eventually results in a “panicked organism” and the “fear-driven brain.”

We have no explicit memories of this time, but as van der Kolk explains in his book titled “The Body Keeps The Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma”, you may not remember early trauma, but your body does.

Time does not Heal it Conceals

It is possible to assess your level of developmental trauma through careful self-exploration, reading, journaling, and talking about your experiences with a trusted friend or professional practitioner.

Awareness can help resolve trauma, and explains why you may feel the way you do, or why you have certain chronic illnesses.

Finally, having an explanation, and understanding that you are not “crazy” goes a long way towards calming the chronic fight-flight response and will set you on the road to recovery.

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14 Comments on “Silent ACEs:” The Epidemic of Attachment and Developmental Trauma

  1. calle
    March 15, 2017 at 2:57 pm (1 week ago)

    Wow
    Thanks for this great article.

    So many have such a rough road.

  2. Niki
    March 15, 2017 at 3:55 pm (1 week ago)

    Thank you!

  3. damon
    March 15, 2017 at 5:04 pm (1 week ago)

    Very important and informative article!! Thanks

  4. paris constantinou
    March 15, 2017 at 5:05 pm (1 week ago)

    another greatly important article by Mrs Niki Gratrix!!great evidence that show the utmost importance of healthy social/emotional relationships in the formation of our psychosomatic health!!her research is of immense value for all of us..she is definitely one of the worlds leading pioneers in this field.a truly courageous and avant garde spirit!!

  5. Niki
    March 15, 2017 at 5:23 pm (1 week ago)

    Thank you Paris!

  6. Niki
    March 15, 2017 at 5:23 pm (1 week ago)

    Thank you!

  7. Dina
    March 15, 2017 at 5:41 pm (1 week ago)

    God Bless you, Niki, my greatest source of important information. All of this article pertained to me. Regarding my past and present. Too bad so many of our lives had to be ruined by narcissist mothers. And to make matters worse, we attract abusive mates! Now I know what my appeal is to abusive types.

  8. Niki
    March 15, 2017 at 5:53 pm (1 week ago)

    Thank you!

  9. calle
    March 15, 2017 at 5:57 pm (1 week ago)

    Knowledge is Power. So healing is possible.
    Make sure your physical body is healthy.
    Healing is a journey.
    Hugz

  10. jojo
    March 15, 2017 at 11:27 pm (1 week ago)

    How does the healing happen in the body as we become more self aware?

  11. calle
    March 16, 2017 at 12:39 am (1 week ago)

    Well we have to nourish it with good clean non GMO foods that are organic.
    Good sleep, healthy clean water, personal time to become who you want to be.
    After so many crisis for over 25 yrs I have to learn to be calm, centered, creative, and get off the rack track.
    Breathing deeply, doing what you can, finding some passion, good friends and family.
    I actually stayed in one place for four whole months. Unpacked my suitcase after many years.
    Giving up something can mean taking your life back.
    Living cleanly, meaning lowering your chemical exposures can do wonders.

  12. Niki
    March 16, 2017 at 2:26 am (1 week ago)

    Hi there. Good question. When we become more self-aware, our stressful reactions to events and life circumstances can calm down – we become less wired and keyed up – more centered. This alone puts the biology into a restful healing state. Sleep improves, as does digestion and detoxification. Gene expression changes toward promoting anti-inflammatory pathways when we are calm and centered. In addition – with more self awareness we notice our own destructive health patterns more clearly, like over-working, over-giving or perfectionism – with awareness we can stop and release these patterns. When we become aware of repressed or disassociated emotions they can finally be felt, acknowledged and released -which frees up energy for body repair mechanisms. Really awareness is prerequisite for any healing as you first need to be cognitively aware that you need a certain type of therapy, approach or modality too. Hope that helps/makes sense. Niki

  13. Kimarina
    March 16, 2017 at 7:23 am (1 week ago)

    Me in a nutshell. I scored 10/10 on the original ACE test, and have since put myself in counselling. After a year, I’m making solid progress. But funnily enough, I’ve attributed more of that to my own search for understanding outside of therapy. So much of what you post, and what I’ve heard on many of the health summits you’ve shared, has hugely increased my awareness of my complex trauma history and how it has impacted my life and health. Far far beyond a weekly one hour session with a counsellor. Even this article has answered anew some questions I’ve had. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD, emotional dysregulation issues and disassociative disorder, (which is fine as it makes me eligible for funding for therapy, etc), but I’ve always understood the core of my problems to be rooted in generational patterns and lack of secure attachment with a primary caregiver. I did that survey mentioned above, and sure enough, I’m fearful-avoidant, insecure in myself and with others. Probably didn’t need the survey to tell me that. But I do want to thank you for even your comment in the comments’ section about healing. That there is hope too, and how it generally works.

  14. Niki
    March 16, 2017 at 9:18 pm (1 week ago)

    Hi Kimarina – this is a powerful comment thank you – and it will help many others. I wish you the very best in your ongoing recovery, warmly Niki

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